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Emily (15-17) asks about
masturbation:
This sounds really BAD but I found one of my mom's
vibrators, and tried it out, (it felt really good) is this wrong? am i too
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Emily:
If
you've read the "Guys Page" on masturbation, you'll realize that it's not
necessarily "bad" or "wrong" to masturbate. If it's not an obsession (that is,
you don't do it constantly), then it's basically harmless as long as you feel
okay about it in your head. It's not something to feel guilty about, although
some people are. Many girls your age have experimented with it, and some even
together. Now, about using your mom's vibrator, I don't think it's a great
idea. I know it's your mom and everything, but it's still possible to spread
disease that way. And besides, what would your mom say to you if she found
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...and so does Sally
(12-14):
When I was watching t.v. a few nights ago I realized I get a
nude channel. So I was watching thinking this is sooo funny. Well I got really
horny and I started masturbating. This is the first time I've ever tried to
masturbate. It was o.k. but I didn't feel comfortable. Is this o.k. and
normal? |
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Sally:
As I
wrote above, it's "okay" if you're comfortable with it. It's not something you
would do if you're uncomfortable. I also do not recommend someone your age
watching adult television. |
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..and so does Hanna
(12-14):
I heard my sisters talking about a vibrator. I am wondering
if I am too young to use one. |
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Hanna:
I think
so... It's considered an "adult toy" that you won't typically find at K-Mart.
It's also possible that you may hurt yourself with it as they're rather large
and sometimes can scratch. You may want to experiment with other, softer
objects if you choose to. |
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A concerned father asks:
My 8 year old daughter has started masturbating since we got her to stop
sucking her thumb. She seems to be doing it many times a day. She even will
spend long periods of time in our swimming pool against the return where the
water jets out. Do you have any advice? |
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Concerned father:
My first piece of advice is not to call attention to it. If she discovers
that "it's bad" to masturbate, that she surely will continue just to spite you!
Also, it may cause some mental conflicts in her teen and adult years, or cause
her to be confused or especially guilty over it. As you probably know,
masturbation should be a private, guilt-free activity done in moderation for
those who chose to masturbate.
What you want to do when you see your
daughter masturbating, is to draw her attention elsewhere. If she's in the pool
hanging out by the returns, go over to her "excitedly" with a ball and
encourage her to play catch with you. Don't bring up what she's doing, and
don't say "don't do that" -- just distract her with something more appropriate.
This will especially be important if you have company over, or if you're in
public. Just don't make her feel guilty about it for "being bad" |
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Credit: J.
Geoff Malta, MA, EdM, NCC Adolescent Therapist
Puberty 101 Archives |
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